If you want to be a real Bully

Say it to my face.

I’m pretty sure that old Mommy mantra “If you don’t have anything nice to say” should be brought back. Why do people get so up in arms about the choices others make? The only real conclusion I can come to is jealously. It’s like little Timmy pulling Jenny’s pigtails, he likes her. Or when all the “cool girls” make fun of the girl that happily plays by herself, they are insecure and need each other to feel “OK”.  There is a great children’s book called “Have You Filled a Bucket Today” It talks about how everyone has an invisible bucket that they themselves fill and others fill when they are kind to them. It also talks about bucket dippers, those sad people who are mean to others thinking they will fill their own buckets, but it never work. So all you bucket dippers, take a step back and figure out why you are so unhappy. Shoot, I’ll help you!

First and foremost, making fun of my son’s long hair is not OK. He is a child. Yes he is a little boy with long hair, is that wrong? He loves his hair and is happy, that is all I ask. Let’s think back to the 70’s when all the bands had long hair, did we call them girls? How about native American men who choose to stick with their culture and keep their hair long, is that wrong? Bullying a 10 year old (even though is cyber bullying and he does not see it) is just wrong. Does it make you feel better about yourself to put him down? Are you jealous because society tells you how to live and you wish you could be free and live how you want? He is smart, kind, loving, fun, an avid reader, and a happy kid. He happens to enjoy his hair long. If you genuinely can not tell he is a boy, please take a look at other context clues. He wears “boy” clothing while both my girls are dressed very “girl”. So please remember when making fun of him for having long hair that he is a child, you are an adult, behave like one.

Yes we call our son the “drunk frat boy”, it’s funny.  He behaves in the same way any 2 year old does, like a drunk frat boy. Seriously, lets all calm down here. Toddlers are funny as they are learning their place in the world around them, remember the terrible two’s? I have learned in my 10 years and parenting 15 children, you have to laugh. You have to find someway to deal with the crazy things your kids throw at you. Tru is very much learning the way of the world and his place as the youngest of 5. He is learning to use his words instead of screaming for what he wants, he is learning patience and that things don’t always happen as fast as he wants. He is learning that things don’t always go his way. There are funny things he does, and if you really think about it he is like a drunk frat boy. The amazing thing about this blog is, if you don’t like it you don’t have to read it.

In general saying mean things about others is wrong. Feel free to read my blog to judge me, but just think for a minute about where your judgement comes from. I have done all my research, been a parent to 15 children throughout the years, and I believe in my choices. Tajh and Tea both attend an amazing private school that they tested into. They are smart, well read, social, and a joy to be around. The moral of this is, judge me if that makes you feel better, but attacking my children is cruel and unkind.

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16 thoughts on “If you want to be a real Bully

  1. Tar Heel Mom

    OK, so here it is to your face. When you call yourself “Super Mom,” and offend the manner in which anyone else raises their children, you become obnoxious. OK? TO YOUR FACE.

    • Referencing the closing paragraph of the blog entry:

      “With this small sampling of examples you can see, I’m clearly a Super Mom. The awesome thing is though, anyone can be. Find the things you value in human beings and teach them to your children…” “I’m a Super Mom and you’re not, so go F yourself…. Or just be a Super Mom for your children.”

      The point of the blog entry is to inspire one to be the best parent they can be and to instill values into your children. Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. Treehugger

    Thanks for pointing out all that you do to be a “super mom”. It’s kind of like finding out WATER IS WET! Duh. We all know that. Don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back. I’m so glad my kids won’t ever have to go back and see me doing that.

    • Well I can’t really agree with that. I know many moms who go over and above and could be called “super moms”. However, being a foster mom showed me plenty of overwelmed and lost mothers. Women who simply did not know any better or could not pull themselves out of the hole. Not even counting those ladies who needed some extra words of encouragement, how many frazzled mothers do you see at the store, playground, or doctors office? Maybe they have a toddler and a newborn and are having a rough time transitioning to two? Or they are just exhausted and could use a little break? Fact is some people do the bare minimum (e.g. feed the children). Maybe my words can inspire them to give a little more, and in return their children will benefit. If I’m wrong, so be it, but I’ll take that chance. 🙂

      I appreciate your comment! Thanks for reading!

      • Treehugger

        So you calling yourself a “supermom” and telling them “You’re not so F off” is “inspiring them” to give more, especially those who are exhausted with a toddler and a newborn, etc? I’m glad you’re so kind and generous with your wisdom. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

      • Clearly this has struck a nerve with you. Again, the intent of the post was to point out that anyone can be a supermom, they just need to find out how they can give their best to their children. Parenting is hard, but our children deserve the best that we can give them. I sleep very well at night, by the way, but it is the result of an active lifestyle and healthy diet 🙂 Happy reading!

  3. Treehugger

    When you grow up, you might not sleep so well, if your conscience ever catches up with you. Hopefully someday instead of bragging about how awesome you are and telling everyone to F off, you might actually do something to help those mothers who are overwhelmed and lost.

  4. dimples

    It’s nice to see a family focus on love. Rock on!

  5. I think you are a super mom and are amazing and your children are amazing kiddos I really hate how these people are judge you.
    I have delt with crap like that for years because of how I look
    People judge others because they are usually not happy with who they are!!
    I have tattoos and piercings and people think I’m on drugs LOL nope been clean and sober 29 years and got all the tatts after.
    I get judged for running with my dachshund 16 miles a guy once posted it was borderline abuse taking Truman running long on trails. He’s a freaking dog he loves yo run!! Just like your kids they love bring outdoors it’s healthy I think.
    Sabrina don’t listen to the haters you are amazing. I also love your writing style I really enjoy reading what you write.

  6. Diana

    People are just plain crazy. Why in the world would anyone get so fired up like this. They need to go outside and get some fresh air. To me, anyone who’s involved in their children’s life is a super mom. You being able to do this crazy adventures and lifestyle with 5 children?! That’s called supernatural. Kudos to you and Seth for sticking to your gut and keeping it real. P.s. i really enjoy your blog and your IG pics (in a very non stalkerish way) so keep it up mama!

  7. Rachel Rivers

    I stumbled onto your blog and am completely inspired! It is so good to see a family living out of the box. Your kids will look back on their lives with tremendous memories and experiences that most kids today could never dream of. Keep at it.

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